Hey there, compassionate friend.
So many of us have spent years trying to keep-the-people-pleased.
Whether it's being stuck in codependency, fawning, or toxic relationship dynamics, being a compassionate person without boundaries can be a terribly painful experience.
Because, (without our true boundaries to guide us), our loving hearts, intelligent minds, and empathic nature have been trained to:
😖 Feel guilty when we try to say no,
😵💫 Over-give, leading us to get taken advantage of (again and again) due to our empathy, kindness, or generosity,
🥺 Stay confused and/or stuck in one-sided, hurtful, or toxic relationships,
😭 Aaand quietly suffer with resentment, anxiety, depression, or burn-out (mainly from dealing with all of the above).
If you can relate, you're not alone.
Many compassionate people struggle with these same things!
Words like "people-pleasing" or "codependent" may describe some of our symptoms, sure, but focusing on those issues doesn't provide the deeper healing and change we long for.
What can we do?
I've found our actual problem is simple.
The real problem is found within the fact that we've been cut off from accessing our deepest boundaries.
Boundaries most of us didn't even know we could have... until now.
Sound familiar?
The thing is, most of us are highly intelligent folks: naturally responsible, empathic, caring and resourceful.
In fact, a lot of us have made a literal career out of being compassionate -- and we're good at it, too!
Many of us are counselors, educators, physicians, social workers, psychologists, nurses, attorneys, non-profit leaders, accountants, physical therapists, coaches, engineers, researchers, scientists, artists, professors, librarians, busy parents, volunteers, retirees...
(the list goes on)!
In other words, WE are the folks other people come to for help with THEIR problems.
But... where do we go to get help with our own?
We need a way to set boundaries in a way that makes sense to our compassionate heart.
Because that's the thing. No one has ever shown us the truth about boundaries in a way that works for people like us!
No wonder we're totally confused about what and where our true boundaries are (much less how to set them without being overwhelmed with fear or guilt)!
Isn't it time for a change?
Hi there! I'm Molly,
the therapist-turned-boundaries-guide
and I'm so glad you're here!
You may already know me as an author 📘, podcaster 🎧, or as the “boundaries cartoonist” on social media 🎨 — but what I really do is help compassionate people (all around the globe) step into their power and reclaim their joy, their truth, and their energy through the art of our true boundaries.
This is not just theory. It’s the same method that completely changed my life — and has now helped thousands of others do the same.
Over the years, I’ve developed a creative, unique and natural approach to boundaries — one that goes faaaar beyond scripts or communication tips.
I call it The Becoming Boundaried Method™.
Would you like to experience it for yourself?
Molly in her ancestral home of Alaska
A big thank you to the amazing photographer, Jamie Taylor Photography, who captured all of the Alaska photos of me (my ancestral home) and has given me permission to use them here.
All other images on this website are my own hand-drawn cartoons and are subjected to copyright. Unauthorized use without permission is prohibited under copyright law.
